Somebody writes the first note and tries to get the meeting, the decision, the introduction, the budget, the buyer's attention and the buyer's patience all at once. That's a lot to ask from someone who doesn't know you yet.

I get why people do it. They believe in what they're selling. They want to get to the point. They don't want to waste time. But first contact usually isn't the place to carry the whole sales story. The first job is simpler.

Make it easy for someone to help you get to the right room.

The first ask should be small enough that a busy person can say yes without feeling like you've just handed them a new job.

Start With Direction, Not A Decision

There's a phrase I like in first-contact outreach: can you point me to the right person?

That's it. You're not asking someone to buy. You're not asking them to sit through a presentation. You're not asking them to evaluate the whole business case. You're asking for direction.

That works because it's low pressure. If they're not the right person, they can tell you who is. If they know the person who owns the problem, they can point you there. If they're not interested, you haven't forced a heavy conversation on them.

And if they do point you somewhere, you now have something better than a cold note. You can write to the next person and say, "Cathy suggested I reach out to you." That's not magic, but it helps. It gives you a trust bridge. Somebody close to the organization gave you a reason to be there.

I learned this the hard way after I left P&G. When I called from P&G, people called me back because the brand had already done some work for me. When I was out building my own company, it took a lot more than one polite note. We once left what felt like a hundred messages before we got a meeting. That prospect eventually became a real customer, but the lesson was obvious: when you don’t have a big brand opening the door, make the first step easy enough that someone can actually take it.

Fire All Cannons, But Keep The Ask Small

I call it "fire all cannons" because you usually don't know where the right person is paying attention. Build the list. Find the people. Reach out by email. Connect on LinkedIn. Use the channels you've got. A big company may have several entry points and the first person you contact may not own the problem.

That doesn't mean being sloppy. It doesn't mean blasting a giant pitch to everyone you can find. It means improving your odds of getting to the right person while keeping the ask simple enough that people can actually respond.

Sales often moves through small steps. A name. An introduction. A forwarded note. A reply. A short conversation. A meeting. A better understanding of the problem. If you try to jump straight to the final decision, you make the whole thing harder than it needs to be.

Do The Work For The Person Helping You

The buyer, or the person near the buyer, shouldn't have to do your job for you. If you want someone to forward your message, give them something simple to forward. If you want an introduction, write the short note. If you want to know who owns the problem, make the question clear.

Don't make them translate your value, rewrite your story or figure out what you need. Everybody's busy. Nobody wants another task. Make your request easy to complete. That's not manipulation. It's respect for their time.

What I'd Send

A first-contact note doesn't need to be long. It usually shouldn't be. It needs to be clear enough to show relevance and short enough that someone can act on it.

• Name why you're reaching out.
• State the problem area in plain language.
• Ask to be pointed to the right person.
• Make it clear this won't take much of their time.
• Give them an easy way to help.

That's the point. First contact isn't the whole sale. It's the start of the path.

Make It Easy To Move

You want to make asks very easy for people. If the first ask feels heavy, people put it aside. If the ask is easy, they may help. And if they help, you're one step closer to the right conversation.

Sales isn't usually one brilliant pitch. A lot of it is good judgment, persistence and making it easy for the buyer to move.

Bottom line: don't make the first contact carry the whole sale. Make the ask easy. Get to the right person. Then earn the next conversation.

At The Advisory Bench, we help growth-stage CEOs build the right bench around the decisions that matter most, including how to get into better growth conversations with the right people in the room.

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Where are you making the first ask too big, when a smaller ask would get you closer to the right person?

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