That sounds simple, but it's easy to miss. We send an email, don't hear back and start building a whole story. They must not care. They must not have budget. They must be too busy. They must not be the right fit.

Maybe. Or maybe your note is sitting in the same inbox as 400 other notes and nobody saw it.
The buyer may not have rejected you. The channel may have failed.

If the normal door isn't opening, find another way in.

Email Is Not The Only Door

Everybody is fighting for attention in the same few places. Email. LinkedIn. Voicemail. Sometimes text. That's where everyone goes, so that's where everyone gets ignored.

That doesn't mean those channels are useless. Use them. But don't confuse using a channel with actually reaching the person.

If the message matters and the opportunity is real, think more broadly. Is there someone who can introduce you? Is there another person in the organization who owns the problem? Is there an event where the buyer will be present? Is there a simpler ask? Is there a better time?

Use A Stamp

There are times when the old-fashioned move is the right move. If email is going nowhere, send a physical card. Mark it personal and confidential if that's appropriate. Make it short. Make it human. Make it clear why you're reaching out.

The point is not that a stamp is magic. The point is that everyone else is piled into the same inbox. A physical note can work because it comes through a different door.

People sometimes want clever tactics. This isn't about being clever. It's about being practical. If the message isn't reaching the person, change the route.

If The Door Closes, Find The Window

This connects to something my dad taught me early: if you get kicked out of the door, climb in a window.

That doesn't mean being reckless. It means being practical. If one path into a company doesn't work, try another. If one person isn't the buyer, find someone else. If one channel fails, use a different channel. If one message isn't landing, ask whether the ask is too heavy, too unclear or going to the wrong person.

Large organizations especially have many doors and many windows. One person's silence doesn't always mean the whole company has no need. It may mean you're at the wrong entry point.

My father had another version of this same lesson. He used to say, ‘take him to the funeral.’ He meant it with humor, but there was a real sales lesson underneath it. If a prospect kept finding reasons not to meet, you didn’t disappear. You found a respectful way to stay in the conversation. The point was never to be obnoxious. It was to keep looking for the next opening.

A Simple Access Check

Before you decide an opportunity is dead, I'd check a few things.

• Channel: is email the wrong way to reach this person? Would a physical note, referral, event or direct introduction work better?
• Person: are you trying to reach the buyer, or just the person whose name you found first?
• Ask: are you asking for too much too early? Would "can you point me to the right person?" work better?
• Trust: is there someone who can forward your note and create a reason for the buyer to pay attention?
• Timing: is this a no, or is it a bad week, bad month or bad quarter?

That trust point matters. If someone the buyer trusts forwards your note and copies you, you're no longer just another stranger in the inbox. You have a reason to be there.

Make It Easy For The Introducer

If someone says, "I'll introduce you," don't make them carry the whole thing. My move is simple: "Let me make it easy for you. I'll write a short email about what we do. Feel free to forward it, copy me and I'll pick up the ball."

That does a few things. It makes it more likely the introduction actually happens. It prevents the other person from having to tell your story from memory. And it lets you take control once the trust transfer has been made.

Again, this isn't complicated. It's thoughtful. Do the work for the person helping you.

Find The Window

The point isn't to be clever for the sake of being clever. The point is to respect the reality that different people are reachable in different ways. Some people respond to email. Some respond to LinkedIn. Some need a referral. Some need a card. Some need a simpler ask. Some need the message to come from someone they already trust.

Sales is partly judgment. Knowing when to keep trying, when to change channels, when to get closer through another person and when to walk away because the opportunity isn't real.

Bottom line: silence is information, but it's not always rejection. Sometimes the channel failed. Sometimes the ask was too heavy. Sometimes you need a trust transfer. And sometimes, yes, you need a stamp.

At The Advisory Bench, we help CEOs build access to the right experience and the right conversations, especially when growth depends on getting to the right people at the right time.

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